Commuting to the Camera

The Fella has been of visiting his mother country for the last 10-days, and I figured it would be a good week to visit mine. Mine’s a lot more convenient to get to, but slightly less exotic.

What I thought was going to be a relaxing week with the fam ended up being a whole lot of commuting back and forth to New York City. It was all in the name of fun (and money). A few weeks ago I shot a spec commercial and lucky for me it was bought by the client, which meant filming the real thing this week. So, for the last few days I’ve been training it back and forth from the east end of Long Island where my parents live to Manhattan.

The travelling is worth the opportunity to hang with my folks and get to showcase my inner camera hog.

I feel like I’m getting more work as an actor lately, now that I have no time to work as an actor, than I did when I was actively auditioning.

I’m even getting my non-actory boyfriend into the act. A few months ago we shot a pharmaceutical commercial together, and next week The Fella and I are shooting an ad for a dating site together. So, if you see a couple that looks kinda familiar trying to sell you drugs or a relationship, it’s probably us. ;)

It doesn’t hurt that he’s super-duper
handsome.

Kim and Roy: The New Face of Dating

Breakfast


Egg white omelet with spinach and feta
Apple sauce

Lunch


Veggie burger on gluten free bun
Baked sweet potato wedges
Pickles

Dinner


Imitation noodles

Imitation chicken (Quorn chikn cutlet)


Put it all together and it’s a real tasty dinner
Tofu noodles baked with spinach, quorn cutlet, and part skim mozzerella

Kim

I wanna be bad…at stuff

My name is Kim, and I’m a perfection-aholic.

While it’s certainly one of my more motivating characteristics, I consider it one of my biggest flaws.

I tend to be pretty realistic when it comes to the natural limitations of other people, but when it comes to myself I expect nothing less than super-human strength and stamina, Einstein-like intelligence, and the patience of Mother Theresa.

Anyone else feel like this?

The problem with this equation is that I am not in fact super-human. This little fact continues to surprise and disappoint me.

What I’m working on now is figuring out a way to make my life work. I feel like everything in my life is amazing, and yet I don’t have enough time, energy, and brain space to manage it all. And in disappointing myself, I often feel like I’m disappointing other people.

Many years ago, I remember arranging a meeting with my then boss. People had just been let go and I’d taken on a whole slew of new responsibilities. The point of the meeting was to establish my priorities. I had so many things on my work plate, I wasn’t sure how to manage them all, and I wanted clarification about what duties took precedence. As we went down the list what we came up with was that they were all priorities.

It wasn’t a particularly helpful meeting.

I’ve been going over my priorities list in a similar fashion these days. Finishing my manuscript is my numero uno priority. Cranking out a 300 page book in six-months is pretty intimidating for a girl who makes her living blogging (everything I write is 500 words max!). In addition, I still have a job as a gossip columnist, work part-time at a magazine, have relationships with family, friends, and The Fella that I would like not to let fall by the wayside, and of course would like to maintain a moderately active lifestyle. They all seem like priorities.

So, I’m going to do something that is very hard for me to do. I’m going to try really, really hard to not try to be perfect (again, not saying I am, but I’m usually trying to be). There are going to be days that I’m a rock star at everything, but most days I probably won’t check off everything on my to-do list. I’m going to cut back my gym going from six days a week, to three, and use exercise videos (<3) to keep me from being completely sedentary on my off days—even if they’re super short ones. I may have to tell my freelance employers that I’m working on a big personal project and may have to take time off when needed. And I may have to be a bit hermetic when duty calls—I’m pretty sure my parents, friends, and boyfriend will still like me when I emerge from my writing cocoon.

Not trying to do everything right is going to be quite the challenge. If rational thought and self-assurances don’t work at quieting my inner perfectionist—candy usually shuts her up.

 

Breakfast

Scrambled egg whites
Orange
Trader Joe’s gluten-free English muffin (the consistency is more like a biscuit than an English muffin, but biscuits are good too)

Lunch

Salad with roasted kabocha squash, grilled tofu, mandarin oranges, and sesame ginger dressing

Dinner




A friend invited The Fella and I over for dinner. Not only is she a fantastic cook, but she kept everything super healthy:
Roasted vegetables, pita, tabouli salad, and shakshouka

Exercise: None. Sigh.

Kim

Best Week Ever!

This has been a seriously AMAZING week.

I haven’t been blogging because I’ve been busy running around with my heart in my throat all week.  I have some super amazing news, but I can’t announce it publicly just yet.  Still, I’m so excited for this next chapter of my life.  I feel like one seriously lucky ducky.  Isn’t this suspenseful?  Do you feel suspended?

Big life changes, guys!  Oh, and I’m not engaged or pregnant.  This is more of a work life kinda change.  I bet some of you, those that have been reading me for a while can guess what it is ;)

I’ll tell you as soon as everything is official.

In other amazing news: The Fella got his permanent green card this week.  The special guy in my life is not a native American (and not a Native American), he’s Israeli.  Holy cow is it hard to immigrate to the United States! He’s spent years and what seems like bajillions of buckeroos in lawyer fees for the right to live here.  Earlier this year his application for a green card was denied and I have been petrified that he’d be deported ever since. Luckily his appeal was successful and now we can breathe a whole lot easier.

A dream come true and a non-deportable boyfriend.  Can life get any better!?!

Yes, it can.  I can sleep now.  I’ve been running on fumes and adrenaline for so long that I totally collapsed today and slept until 5pm  (well, with brief conscious moments where I got up to write gossip and eat meals).  Ican’t remember the last time I slept all day–but I’ll take my sleep when I can, the next few months are going to be busy!

How are you spending your weekend?

Breakfast

Honey Nut Cheerios, skim milk, and a banana

As soon as things settled down I got on a train and went to visit my family.  We’re going to spend the weekend finishing up unpacking from their move in November.  Added bonus: They always have better cereal choices than I do :)

Lunch

Between nap snack:
Smoothie with strawberries, banana, vanilla protein powder, skim milk

Dinner

My mom made Chinese style eggplant over Jasmine rice.

Exercise: Funny, exercise. Ha!

Kim

Happy Place Landing

I spent last night volunteering at a women’s shelter in New York. I think the warm ooey-gooey feelings from the night carried over into today, because I was happy all day.

Coming from someone who has spent a good deal of their professional career working in the non-profit world I’m embarrassed to say that I don’t volunteer as often as I’d like to. Strangely, I always have a hard time finding volunteer opportunities that I mesh with. I meshed with this one. In fact, I really hope I’m invited back. I have a friend who volunteers regularly with this organization and asked if I’d like to take along. The shelter is a pretty amazing, it’s a standard New York City apartment building, like any other, but this one is dedicated to helping homeless single parent families get off the streets and into a supportive community. While there the residents receive housing; job training; health benefits; education on nutrition, budgeting, and literacy if needed. They also have counseling and community activities at their disposal, activities like the reading night we went to last night.

Every Wednesday night volunteers come and read with the kids of the community. It was such a truly inspiring night: the kids were so excited to read, the parents really prioritized education, and the volunteers were all just happy to be a part of it. If they’ll have me back, I really hope to make this a regular part of my schedule.

So, I woke up with a hop in my step. I spent the morning doing chores, running errands, and moving furniture (the new roomie moves in this weekend). Then, this afternoon I met up with my aunt for a deep tissue massage (she didn’t give it to me, but she paid someone else to J) some wine, and a Panini.

And…if the day couldn’t be any more perfect I ended it by having tea with one of my favorite friends, a friend I don’t see nearly enough but never ceases to brighten my day when I do see her.

There’s something about these sorts of days that make me all sappy and philosophical. I can’t help but think that people are awesome. It’s easy to forget that in a world of sensationalist media (of which I admit to being a part). Sure, there are a few bad apples out there, but as a whole people are good. And more often than not, they’re just looking to connect with other people. There’s a reason we evolved from our cave dwelling days: we’re certainly not the toughest animal on the block, and we can only give the opposable thumb so much credit. I think it all has to do with our innate ability to create a posse with whomever we got lying around.  People like people, even if you don’t really like people chances are you kinda do. There’s something so amazing about the way we live: having a community, a family, and friends to fill your life (and sometimes, when you’re lucky, your day). Even in a digital age, we’re all just looking to connect, create a new sort of community. I’m going to keep this feeling in mind next time I’m sitting on the couch feeling lonely.

Of course, now that I’ll have a roommate perhaps I won’t have too many of those couch moments. Roommate=instacommunity. Okay, I’ll stop now. This is too Pollyanna, even for me.

Do you volunteer? How do you participate in your community?

Breakfast

Pumpkin protein pancakes with walnuts and sugar-free syrup
Scrambled egg whites

Lunch


Smoothie made with sugar-free chocolate almond milk, banana, peanut butter, chocolate protein powder

Dinner


I stopped for an early dinner with my aunt. A grilled zucchini panini with mozzarella and parsley
Mixed greens with vinaigrette
Yummy wine (probably should not be drinking that after a teeth whitening)

Exercise: Rest Day

Kim

Work-Free Zone

How sexy are these gams?

Hot, I know. My arms and abdomen have similar decorative shading.

I’ve been Internet free and busy moving my parents for the past few days (and I’ve eaten enough pizza to put Italy out of business). I adore those two crazy kids, but if they ever move again I’m going to insist that they hire movers. In a way it’s kind of flattering that they thought I was strong enough to do the heavy lifting for them, but four days of moving furniture in and out of a truck is my physical limit. I can’t even fathom going to the gym for a while. I’m just going to hang out with my couch for the time being.

Mmmm, sitting tastes good.

I got back into the NYC at 2am, took a quick nap, and got right down to work. Luckily work happened at one of my favorite kitschy New York diners. Free wi-fi and a bottomless cup of coffee—what else could a girl want?

Well, sleep, and maybe an ice-pack.

Brunch


Egg white omelet with spinach and onions, whole grain toast, and fruit salad

Treat


Chocolate and vanilla fro-yo with mini peanut butter cups and Oreo

Dinner


Obviously I was having an effort-free day. Delivery seemed like the only logical choice, I tried to keep it healthy-ish.
Steamed chicken and broccoli over brown rice, corn starch/oil-free garlic sauce

Kim

Coming in first

Here’s a life lesson for you: Sometimes you have to put yourself first.

Even if it’s not fair, even if it will make people angry, even if you will feel guilty about it—sometimes the only thing to do is the thing you need to do for you.

I think this lesson comes easier to some than others. For me it’s been a long time coming. And then this week happened. This week is even “Hellier” than last week’s Hell week. This week I have to get down and dirty with a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity (although, I hope that after this once there’ll be more-in-a-lifetime). The trouble here is that it coincides with some other important moments for the people I love; including my parents and my best friend.

Not only do I feel overwhelmed mentally, but I’m totally emotionally spent.

I have resolved myself to doing the best I can for those I love, without sacrificing the time and dedication needed over the next week for my dreams to come true. People will be disappointed in me, but I’ll be even more disappointed if I waste this opportunity. Sometimes you have to be your own first priority.

So, I called out of work for a week, took  some time off from helping my parents move, and told my best friend that I wouldn’t be riding in the limo for her bachelorette party (although I’ll be there for the rest of the actual partying) so that I could spend as much of the day writing as possible. I feel like a terrible employee, daughter, and friend, but I’m doing the best I can.

Do you have a hard time putting yourself first? Disappointing others?

Breakfast

Egg white omelet with sautéed onions and peppers, topped with salsa

Lunch

Half a wrap with avocado and mushrooms
Salad with lettuce, feta, oranges, and candied walnuts, raspberry vinaigrette

Post-Workout Snack


Half a protein bar

Café fare while writing


Earl Grey tea with soy milk

Dinner


I probably won’t have Internet access later tonight, so no dinner pics for you.

Exercise: 60-minutes strength training, 30-minutes stairmill

Kim

Let Kim eat cake!

It was a love and food filled weekend for me.

On Saturday I got to spend the day with my family, immediate and extended.

My great-aunt Ethel just turned 95, and my mom, dad, aunt, and uncle headed to my cousin’s house for a family visit to celebrate. If I could be anyone when I grow up it would be Ethel, I think she’s just about the most amazing person that has ever existed. And let me just say, that woman makes 95 look good!

Forget 95, I hope I’m in half as good shape as she is when I’m 35!

Sunday was my best friend’s bridal shower.

I couldn’t be more excited for a wedding if it were my own. My best friend and her fiancé (also one of my closest friends) have been together for ten years, and have been engaged for half that time. They’ve been saving for their dream wedding for years, and now it’s right around the corner!

Isn’t she going to make the most beautiful bride?

I consider myself extremely lucky to count these two foxy ladies as my bestest friends.

After all the celebrating and hugging was done I was ready for a nap. I can’t believe I’m saying this, but I may have had my fill of cake for a while…

Who am I kidding, there’s no such thing as too much cake!

 

In the meantime I’m returning to regularly scheduled eating and exercise.

Breakfast


Oatmeal/cottage cheese/egg-white (tastes better than it sounds)pancake with maple syrup

Snack


Chocolate protein shake with almond milk

Lunch


Whole wheat wrap with tofurky, tomato and onion
Steamed broccoli

Snack


Post workout chocolate muffin

Dinner


I had class tonight, a class that conveniently caters dinner. Salad with candied pecans and oranges—yummo!
Half a goat cheese, pesto, and vegetable sandwich

Exercise: 35-minute jog, 30-minute stair climb, 60-minute strength training (with personal trainer)

Kim

An Adventure in Muscle Building

There is a lie that many of us like to tell ourselves when it comes to exercise: that lie is that different types of exercise will create different shaped muscles. It’s often touted that things like Pilates or Ballet will make long lean muscles, the kind of muscles we so covet of those pesky ballerinas. To counter that, it’s often thought that things like dead-lifts and the Smith machine will make Arnold-worthy bulges.

The sad, and often craptastic reality is that muscle shape is determined by genetics.

Sucks, I know.

I spent the majority of my formative years in a tutu, and yet I have legs like a linebacker. I blame my dad, I am the living, breathing, female version of my him. The family resemblance is really obvious when we wear shorts.

He’s pretty cute, right?

My mother, who is now well into her thirties (you’re welcome, Mom) has long lean arms and legs, my dad and I…not so much. Now that I’m older I’ve come to terms with my legs. I may not ever feel the urge to wear a mini-skirt, but my legs are strong and capable and I’m proud of what they’ve accomplished. Now, my upper body is another story. I have exactly the opposite problem. While a single lunge seems to be enough to have my hamstrings in prime shape, it doesn’t matter how many curls or pull-downs I do, my arms pretty much always look the same.

I’ve interviewed the paternal figure about it, and it seems that he suffered from the same problem back in his athletic days.

Am I doomed to a lifetime of strong legs and not-so-strong arms?

Probably, but with a wee bit of fidgeting with diet, supplements, and training I may be able to get a tiny bit of definition in my least cooperative of appendages. For the next few weeks I’m going to play around with my diet a bit, and I’m taking Branch Chain Amino Acid supplements. BCAAs are said to help to promote muscle growth and repair. I don’t usually do supplements but these ones seem relatively harmless, and I haven’t been able to find any real risks involved in their use.

So, if I’m eating more protein and taking silly pills over the next few days/weeks, don’t think I’m aiming for a complete lifestyle change–I’m just experimenting.  I may not be able to change the shape my muscles come in, but I can at least try to show that shape off.

Do you have any body parts that just don’t seem to change, no matter how hard you work them?
Do you take any supplements?

Breakfast


Egg white omelet with spinach and goat cheese
Orange
The love of my life Coffee with almond milk

Snacks


Strawberry protein shake (pre-workout)

I also had a chocolate protein muffin (post-workout)

Lunch


Mini turkey meatloaf
Salad with tomato, cucumber, onion and beets

Dinner

No picture.
I had dinner at a class I was taking, salad and a vegetable wrap.

Exercise: Strength-triceps and chest, 35-min run, 35-min elliptical

 

Kim

What’s Making Me Happy: Running Weekend Edition

I’ve been MIA the last few days, but there’s been a lot keeping me happy.  For starters, the fella celebrated a birthday and I got to take him out Kim-style to celebrate.  After the celebrating I hopped on a train and headed out to Long Island to run a 5K with some of my hometown friends and do a little bonding with the fam.

Dinner at Candle 79, New York’s premier vegan restaurant.  Followed by…

Cirque de Soliel’s Zarkana

A walk around Fashion’s Night Out


Super serious model face initiated.  A strong contrast to…

Super cheesy post-5K face.
We had a lot of fun.  I wasn’t as fast as a once was, but considering I haven’t run in MONTHS I was pretty psyched to get through the race in 32 mins.  We’re signing up for another 5K in October, I’m hoping to come in under 30 mins at that one.

Photo Credit: Gateway Playhouse

Today my aunt and uncle (Manhattanites) are coming out to Long Island to visit my parents and we’re all going to a community theater production of Sweeney Todd.  Incidentally this is the theater I first started my acting career at.

I’ll head back to Brooklyn tonight and maybe get a little work done.  A very full, and happy weekend.

What’s making you happy?

Kim

Dear Internet: I’m Back

The good news: I finally got my hands on a new computer. About 45-seconds after I pressed “publish” on my last blog my computer did its last little freak out of the technologically living world (deleting everything on my iPhone that had the misfortune of being plugged in at the time) and is now resting comfortably on a shelf at my parents’ house until I can figure out what to do with it.

The bad news: I’m really behind on work, emails, and all things technologically related…in other words: life in general. The next few days are going to be a mad dash to make up assignments and kiss some editorial patootie so that I can keep myself employed. How were people able to passive-aggressively communicate with others before the advent of the Internet? Oh right, they actually did communicate in real life. How quant. The few days that I was computerless and phoneless were super stressful, but also strangely rejuvenating. While I wasn’t being hysterical, it was actually quite soothing to be completely unplugged.

I think I’m going to add one more resolution to my May list:

Digital detox one day a week. This is going to be hard, but I’m going to take one day a week off from technology and experience life as it is, not as it is on the Internet.

In the meantime I’m happy to be back in the land of the tech-capable. I’m also glad to be back in Brooklyn. I spent the last three days visiting my family and while I’m always nostalgic for home, a few days away always makes coming back to the daily grind of my real life feel fresh and exciting.

The Internet withdrawal left me confused and disheveled, and only capable of communicating with Ray-Ray…

Ray-Ray is my parents’ cat. He was a rescue kitty and came with the name, but I still like to make fun of my parents for having some sort of obsession with the name Rae/Ray. I’m thinking we should start naming all new additions to the family [First name] Rae

Breakfast


Whole wheat English muffin with peanut butter
Banana

Lunch


Ham with mustard on a roll

Dinner


Black beans and brown rice with turnip greens

 

 

Kim