I really never thought that I would meet someone on an online dating site. But, I actually met The Fella online. I had tried the whole Internet dating thing before (after all, every other part of my life is online, why not my love life?), but had decided after 1 or 2,000 craptastic dates that the Internet was where creepazoids and miscreants went to torture young, single women.
And then my mom asked me to give it one more shot. Her dentist, who she swore up and down was really attractive, only to later describe him as a Danny Bonaduce look-a-like, met his wife online—thusly being proof that normal people are looking for love on the Internets.
I have a hard time saying no to my mom.
Around that same time The Fella’s BFF convinced him to give cyber matchmaking a try; and that, my friends, is that. A few emails about the Turkish origins of Santa Claus and a five-hour first date later, we’ve been inseparable ever since.
This week, Roy and I were asked by IvyDate, a selective dating site that specializes in matching successful, primarily highly educated singles, with like smart and sexy folk, to be their “real couple” for an upcoming promotion with DailyCandy. The promotion goes live on March 23rd, so if you’re curious about the site it might be a good way to check it out.
It was a fun excuse to make out with my boyfriend all over Manhattan. We started the day with a bit of makeup, and proceeded to get cuddly while a photographer snapped shots of us being our naturally nauseating selves.
We haven’t seen the professional shots yet, but the ones above are a taste of the behind-the-scenes action.
Ironically, this photo shoot was probably the closest thing to a date we’ll have for the next few months. Between thesis writing (him), and book writing (me), The Fella and I spend most of our time together these days typing. It was nice to have a change of pace, and to spend a morning sans keyboards and just get to hang out. Now, back to typing J
Have you ever tried online dating? Were your experiences good? Bad? Apocolyptic?
Breakfast
Unphotographed yogurt
Lunch
Whole wheat wrap with tofurkey, tomato, mustard
Baby carrots and hummus
Dinner
This pasta bake is quickly becoming a staple.
Tofu noodles with broccoli, meatless meatballs, pasta sauce, and part skim mozzarella
Exercise: 35-minute jog in the park
I actually met my husband on match.com. I think there is becoming much less of a taboo regarding that whole meeting online thing. Sometimes you just don’t meet the right guys in your day to day life, and you have to try something else. We even have mutual friends in real life that we didn’t know about until much later. You and Roy look adorable together and I’m so happy for you!
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I have, too, met my husband online, after a million and one terrible/awkward first dates. It would probably take me much longer to give it another try, but – this is real – my gay friend, who reads Tarot told me I’ll meet my significant other around September 2007. I’ve actually had someone in mind when I heard that – on 1st September I had a scheduled date with a guy I’d met online, been exchanging emails with/ impressed by for the past several months. It was a disaster. On the last day of September I have registered at an e-mail cybermatching service. A few emails later…
And yes, you two look great together. Please try to squeeze in a date somewhere in your busy schedule:)
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That’s awesome Kim!
One question regarding that site:
Do you have to be like über qualified and present things like proof of employment/credit in order to qualify to be a member of that group? I ask because it sounds like an exclusive member service or something.
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Kimberly Rae Miller Reply:
March 17th, 2012 at 9:15 am
Hey Phil,
I’m pretty sure that it’s illegal to ask for proof of employment and financial info. They do, however, vet profiles before they go live. You can scope out the site/create a profile for free and first see if there are people in your area (since it’s a relatively new dating site, they’re not in every market yet). If not, there are all sorts of sites out there now, especially ones that cater to personal interests. I have a friend that met her fiance on OKCupid, and that site is completely free and the largest dating site out of all of them. I think sometimes, it takes some time to find the right “applicant pool,” but it’s always worth browsing
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Phil Reply:
March 28th, 2012 at 5:32 am
What does “vet profiles before they go live” mean if you don’t mind me asking? I have absolutely no idea what dating entails, and no I am not making this up. I genuinely don’t know.
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One-half of an e-harmony couple here! I LOVE LOVE LOVE being married. And it is SERIOUSLY creepy how closely the hubs and I are matched. Beliefs, thoughts about $$, energy levels, creativity, optimism, flexibility…creepily wonderful. :0)
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I didn’t meet Curtis on line, but we did reconnect 7 years later on line. I don’t think that really counts, but I whole heartedly approve of on line dating. I figure I have made friends on line, why would it not be the same for couples?
In any case, you two seem really well suited for each other and are absolutely adorable! You also seem really happy. That is always good. Very happy for you two!
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So I have to ask, what site did you meet on? I must admit having not such good luck on the internet dating sites. Nerve has given me more horror dates than not, and eharmony set me up with a pot dealer (and I’m really not into pot!). Maybe it’s just a matter of keeping at it, but I do think some sites are better than others!
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Kimberly Rae Miller Reply:
March 18th, 2012 at 2:49 pm
YIKES!!!! I would definitely say that drug dealing is a deal breaker. The 70-year old woman in me would have totally wrote eHarmony a strongly worded letter.
The Fella and I didn’t meet on IvyDate, but we know some great couples that did–. We actually met on Jdate. I’ve heard horror stories and successes from just about every dating site out there: Match, JDate, OKCupid, Plenty of Fish, Ivy Date, Fitness-Singles.com; there are sites for just about every interest. I was SOOOOOO at the point where I had given up on Internet dating, when I decided to give it another shot (with some prodding from my mom). It’s all in the timing, I suppose.
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I tried online dating a couple of years ago and met the biggest player ever. (He had a pregnant live in girlfriend of 6 years at home!) I’ve recently given it a second chance because there is almost a zero possibility of meeting men hanging out at home, which is my favorite thing anymore. I’m hoping for better results this time. I’m on there so there have to be more normal people on there as well. Right???
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