We’ve Moved! Can we Move Back?

Hello from the suburbs!

That’s my lawn being dug up. Yay!

I’ll be honest ya’ll, this isn’t a super easy breezy transition for me.

I miss New York City every day. I have yet to get through a day without wondering if we could just call this whole grand experiment a mistake and go running back to our old life in New York City.

At least I’m not sharing my room with an infant anymore. The Little Fella is loving his new room.

I might feel differently if we hadn’t had the transition from hell, but there really hasn’t been much that hasn’t gone wrong for us in the last week, including mover screw ups (if you’re moving in the NY area and want to know which company to absolutely not ever use email me), asbestos abatement, digging up a cesspool and a flood in our basement. I’m a whole lot poorer and a whole lot homesick. The Fella works long hours and commutes about four hours a day door-to-door, which means I don’t really see him. It might not feel quite so isolating and transient if we had a nice comfortable place to spend the day, but we’re still living out of boxes because we’re still renovating and thanks to all the last minute expenses I don’t expect to be able to afford furniture anytime soon. Like years.

Kitchen Before & After

I’m pretty overwhelmed. I also have a cold and pinkeye in both eyes and a looming deadline…so you know, a little stressed.

Bathroom Before & Almost After

In the midst of it all Ethan stopped breastfeeding cold turkey. Well, he started biting, I screamed and he’s refused to nurse ever since, so I’m a little emotional on that front as well. Stupid mommy hormones. The good part of all that is that without wanting to nurse for comfort in the middle of the night he’s started sleeping through the night. That makes it all a helluva lot easier to deal with. I’m sure having his own room helps.

I’m taking comfort in the fact that now that I’ve had to sell my kidneys to cover fixing this money pit of mine, everything is pretty new and we’ve raised the equity of the house…which is good because I’m pretty much ready to sell it. Anyone want to buy my house?

 

 

  1. On the plus side – it looks so pretty where you live! I recommend going for long walks with Ethan and finding a mom meetup group asap. My circle of mom friends have been a saving grace. Even though I didn’t move to the suburbs I think I never felt at home in Chicago until I met my group of mom friends here.
    The commuting part is hard though! Any chance he could find a job closer to home? Four hours is insane! My husband commutes for two hours and I thought that was terribly long.

  2. I’m so sorry honey, I’ve been there. Things will get better one day. The seasons always change.

  3. Also, if it’s not critical to live in New York, people in Louisiana have houses that nice that work in Walmart lol! And have a three mile commute. Less of a state but more of a life, maybe!

  4. Moving sucks. You will be fine. We moved into the house after Tropical Storm Allison when we had NO power, NO air conditioning (in Houston! in summer! why even shower when we were perpetually wet from sweat and humidity?), and EVERYTHING flooded… it all got better and dried up, and you will be FINE. Blame moving. Don’t blame yourself.

  5. You’re so funny. I’m 83 years young and thought I should delete you but I can’t bring myself to do it. I love seeing the baby and the house. We live in a very urban neighborhood in Norfolk VA. I predict you will do the same when the kid(s) are grown. Back to NY I mean. We are able to walk to restaurants, movies, and grocery stores. We hardly need the car.

    Happy trails .
    Paula

  6. That is A LOT to deal with, I’m glad you write your blog, perhaps that’s a good way to deal with it, get it out there.

    It will be OK!! What you have done so far looks wonderful!

    This too shall pass……….. 🙂

  7. I also hate the suburbs and want to move back. Who are all those crazy people who said this is what you’re supposed to do when you have kids and what are they thinking?

  8. Would you like to be pen pals? I love your blog, I loved your book, and I would be happy to write you an old fashioned letter that you could read while looking out the window at all the houses, cars, and sidewalks that fill your new neighborhood. Life can be hard. It’s easier to endure with friends. 🙂

  9. I can see how that move would be really isolating, especially if you’re at home with a baby. I hope you are getting out as much as you can with the babe to see other humans. <3 Find your tribe, they are around there somewhere I bet! I was really surprised how much I liked other parents, hopefully you can find some like-minded folks around there and strike up friendships. Your house looks gorgeous!