Happy New Year!!!
If I had to pick any one holiday to be my favorite holiday it would be New Year’s Day. There’s a lot of pressure on New Year’s Eve to have a date, look stunning, and have somewhere cool to go, but New Year’s Day is pure fresh start. I love a fresh start more than anyone. I know that life doesn’t really change between midnight and 12:01am, but I like the idea of wiping the slate clean and starting over fresh. And so I look forward to New Year’s Day every year as my chance to be a better version of myself, but also to forgive myself for all the things I wasn’t so great at.
I really can’t say goodbye to 2015 soon enough. It was a rough year us, but we have a lot to look forward to in 2016. Actually, we have one very specific thing to look forward to. We’re having a little boy!
While preparing for the Little Fella isn’t the only thing going on in my life, it’s a big theme in my resolutions for this year.
In 2016 I’m resolving to:
Be funds focused. This hasn’t been the easiest year for us financially. The Fella started 2015 off with a layoff, 9-months of living off savings and paying some crazy exorbitant COBRA fees was pretty rough for us financially and we have a lot of triage to do when it comes to our financial health. Luckily, The Fella is back in the land of the gainfully employed and I should be getting a book advance sometime this year in addition to my freelance work, so there’s some relief on the horizon. In the meantime (and even after the meantime) we’re tightening our belts and being more frugal with expenses, eating out is only a special occasions activity and ordering in is to be strictly reserved for the weeks post-baby when I can’t even think about cooking. My gym membership expires in a couple of months and I won’t be renewing, instead I’ll focus my energy on home workouts. Although, I will continue taking prenatal yoga classes before my due date, because I want to do whatever I can physically to prepare for game day. We’re also focusing our energy on being more budget conscious when it comes to our basic necessities: no more impulse buys at the grocery store, we’ll be sticking to a strict list of what we need for the week. I’ll also rededicate a decent part of my Sunday to meal planning for the week, so we know exactly what we need and Roy can brown bag it. Inez will never see doggy daycare again (although she hasn’t for a while), no more fancy Petco grooming sessions and no more of the super fancy treats we used to buy her (she still gets treats, they’re just less fancy). We’ve cut back on our cleaning woman, too, although for my sanity we haven’t cut her out completely. And, in prep for LF (Little Fella) I’ve joined a bunch of local mom swap groups that sell or give away gently used baby gear.
Make room for our new roommate. While we rebuild our house down payment fund we’ll be sticking it out in our one bedroom apartment. We’re going on four years in this apartment together and what once seemed like a sparsely furnished space has become a little cramped. (I blame Inez. For a tiny dog she takes up a lot of space.) We’ll be putting some furniture and books in storage to make room for things like a changing table and crib, but I’m also hoping to use LF’s arrival as an excuse to de clutter our space. I’ve been downsizing by selling a lot of our not-so-used stuff on eBay. Things we thought we needed and never used, or gifts we got but haven’t found a use for can find a new home with a new family. What we don’t sell will get donated to Housing Works, a NYC based charity that uses the funds made through their thrift shops toward AIDS treatment, research, and outreach, and also toward helping the city’s homeless community.
Be the boss I always wanted. I have a lot going on professionally these days. I’m working on a new book, keeping up with a myriad of freelance jobs and expanding my public speaking calendar. In addition to having a human baby, I have a lot of work babies on my plate in 2106 and I need to focus a considerable amount of energy on not only growing my business but being more of a business. As things stand now I’m a little too unstructured in my work day, if something comes up in our personal life that needs taking care of, it’s my work that ends up suffering. So, for 2016 I’m going to create and keep a work schedule that cannot be sacrificed to other “emergencies.” Having said that, when LF arrives I plan on taking three-months off from work—a hard thing to do as a freelancer, which makes our pre-baby budgeting even more important.
Dare to be pretty. There are only a few pitfalls to never having to wear pants, and one of them is looking like a bum. Because I don’t have an office to go to, or people I interact with face-to-face daily, it’s easy not to care how I look. Stained sweatpants and a ponytail is totally acceptable attire for my living room, but wearing it all day, every day has made me feel kind of meh about myself. I was recently looking at pictures of myself from a few years ago the other day and thought, “I used to look pretty.” Now I don’t think my looks have deteriorated extensively in the last few years, but I think my effort level has diminished considerably. I miss feeling good about myself when I look in the mirror and a big part of that is actually taking the time to get dressed, do my hair, and put on some lip gloss.
Do you know what I’m not resolving for 2016?
I’m not resolving to lose weight. My goal is to simply eat as healthy as I can (this is not always a battle I can win, there are some days when jalapeno and bagels are all I can imagine eating) while I’m pregnant, to exercise regularly but not extensively, and to not worry about what my body looks like five minutes after having a baby.
What are you resolving for 2016?
Who has boy-momming advice for this lady?