how-to-slow-down

I’m a little late on my new month’s resolutions.  Usually I try to get them out on the first of the month, but this September 1st I was living an Internet-free existence while sharing a condo with some girl-friends on the beach in Puerto Rico. There was a whole lot of laughing, a whole lot of crying, and not a lick of sight-seeing.  As far as vacations go, this one was more about resting our weary emotions than anything else.

We could have done this anywhere, but it took a three-hour plane ride and ocean views to get us there. I say this not to brag…trust me, there will be a theme here.  I do like themes.

That theme is slowing down.  Not in an, “I’m going to sit on my couch and eat banana bread all September” sense, but in the deliberate sense.  Sometimes it is best to do a number of things really well, than a lot of things okay-ish.  There are some people who understand this truism intrinsically; I am not one of them.  I am the kind of person who claims to function best as a whirling dervish.

I’m honestly not sure if that’s still true about me, or if it ever was, but I strongly remember my high school, college, and most-of-my-twenties self, and remember my overfilled Filofax being a source of pride.  “I’m busier than EVERYONE!”

The fact that I live in New York City only encouraged this sort of craziness, because I’m not so much a freak here as a member of the majority.

These days, things are different.  I’m not sure if it’s age or circumstance, but I can’t, I no longer want to, live that kind of life. Sigh, but that kind of life definitely wants to live me.  It is the New York way.

Having said all of that, these are my resolutions for September:

1. Say No.  Not for the fun of it, saying “no” has never been a strong suit of mine.  But, if I can’t make something work, if there just isn’t enough time or space in my life it’s okay not to move heaven and earth to accommodate someone else.

2. Make time.  There are things that are necessary for my mental health.  Those things include, but are not limited to: cooking (especially if The Fella does the dishes afterward), lifting heavy things and moving quickly (see what I did there, that means exercise), make-out sessions with my super hot fiancé, and margaritas/cry fests/sitting around doing nothing with friends.  These are the important things in life, and it’s important to remember that.

3. Word Love.  One of my favorite, most rewarding things in my life, is writing.  Here and other venues.  Since the inception of my book through the publishing of it, I’ve been a bit overwhelmed by the number of words my day requires.  That feeling has finally started to subside a bit, and writing no longer feels like a chore, but a nice happy release at the end or beginning of a crazy day.  I have a few new projects coming down the pike, and a few old ones that need a little TLC.   I finally feel ready to start chipping away at them…slowly.

Since this month is about slowing down, I think three self-involved resolutions is all I really need.

What are you resolving for September?