Relationship weight.

Been there?

Done that?

BTW: Sex burns about 300 calories per hour for the average 150 pound adult. More reason to get it on. And if you get it on for an hour at a time…Hey there!

Yeah, we all have. There’s something so tempting about sitting in bed all day, cuddling and eating candy. Mmm, candy cuddling. Some of the biggest weight gains of my life have come from getting comfy in a couple. If you’re female, and have gained the couple poundage, it probably comes from going round-for-round with your guy. It really sucks that guys get to eat so much more than we do. I don’t know about you ladies, but I’m hungry, I like to eat…a lot.

If you’re a guy and you’re gaining, I’m guessing it may come from wining and dining the lady in your life. Or, perhaps it’s an uptick in home cooked meals (not that you don’t cook for yourself, I’m just passing on some of the grumbles I’ve heard from the men-friends in my life).

So far, this go ’round with The Fella I’ve been able to stave off the surge in the scale. This is due in part to the fact that my boyfriend is a personal trainer, and since we’re both far from rolling in dough these days many of our couple-y bonding moments happen as gym dates. While he also happens to be health conscious, it’s still not easy. The Fella really can eat far more than I can, especially because he’s pretty fit. I’m also gym-ing it a lot less these days because I’m working a lot more. This means keeping a tighter rein on my calorie allowance since I’m not burning as much on a daily basis.

I’m also a bit older, and a bit wiser in this relationship than I have been in my past ones. When I was younger I was really afraid to speak up about wanting to watch what I ate and make time for spin class. I didn’t want to seem like the kind of girl that was obsessed with her diet (Let’s face it guys, I’ve been writing a blog about what I eat for four years now–I think we can safely say that the secret is out), and I wanted to be that easy-breezy girl that could hang with the guys. Now that I’m a bit older, I don’t think wanting to take care of myself makes me high-maintenance. I know now that taking care of my needs is a very important part of my relationship. I want to bring my best me to the table, and that only serves to make me happier and more present.

Having said that, I sometimes wonder if I’m going to get the stink eye when The Fella opens his refrigerator to find a big batch of egg-white omelet muffins (below), or cartons of almond milk in his cabinet, or the secondary gym bag I have taking up precious real-estate in his apartment. So far he hasn’t even flinched. We’re planning on moving in together later in the summer or in early fall, and I think this will make the whole food storage issue a bit easier, but in the meantime I’m brown bagging my relationship.

Have you experienced relationship weight? How have you staved off the curse of coupledom?



Egg white spinach “muffins”

To make these little bundles of protein-y goodines I blended 2 cups of liquid egg whites with a cup of 1% cottage cheese (using an immersion blender). In a muffin pan I put chopped onion and spinach in each cup, then poured the egg white mixture on top. I baked the tray of muffins at 375 degrees for 40 minutes (this totally depends on your oven). When cooled I sorted pairs of muffins in snack bags. I just pop them in the microwave for a minute in the morning. Easy, peasy, portable and portion controlled breakfast.


Salad with lettuce, tomato, cucumber, onion, kalamata olives, feta and lemon vinaigrette (fresh lemon juice, dash of olive oil, dash of honey)


Things just taste better if you can wrap them in foil. For dinner I made “Fauxwarma.” Fake shwarma. I had been craving this New York Street Meat staple for a while now. This morning I whipped up some Tzatziki sauce, combining non-fat yogurt, cucumber, garlic and dill. Come the PM I warmed up some fake chicken strips (MorningStar Farms), tossed it in turmeric, cumin, paprika, and salt. I combined them both with some lettuce, tomato, and hot sauce in a whole wheat flat bread.

I can successfully say that it scratched that food cart itch for about 350 calories.

Exercise: I haven’t gotten to it yet, but I’m hoping to get a DVD in tonight before bed.