Sometimes I think that there is a gap in understanding between the sexes.  Yesterday, as I spent the day holed up with Achilles in his apartment to wait out the snow storm the conversation turned to weight, weight gain, weight loss, genetics and The Biggest Loser.

While to me weight gain and loss are very complicated things, things that take an emotional toll as well as a physical one, I found it really hard to explain this to Achilles. He sees a personal trainer 3-4 days a week, exercises on his own the other days,  exists solely on eggs, protein powder, yogurt, Trader Joe’s frozen chicken Tikki Masala, and new addition turkey.  His thoughts went something like this “If people are fat why don’t they just stop eating so much.  My trainer says I should only eat turkey and yogurt, then that’s what I’ll eat for the rest of my life.”  Okay, so that’s not a direct quote, but it’s close enough.

I had  a really hard time explaining that for many people, for most people, food is everywhere, it’s tempting, it bombards us in every aspect of society through advertising and availability.  We live in a very tricky society; on one hand we are told in many senses that eating is wrong that we should all eat like Achilles and be happy to do so.  On the other hand, we’ve been sold sugar laden drinks and cereals since birth, food is a part of every major celebration in life, fast food is affordable while fresh fruits and vegetables can put a serious dent in your savings, and being considered a foodie or gourmet is a sign of prestige.  It’s a very confusing world.

I tried to explain that, and also that not everyone is perfectly content to eat the same thing day in and day out (I was so craving a vegetable or fruit yesterday!)  I also tried to explain that some people are just more genetically predisposed to weight gain than others.

We all know people that eat like they’re hording for a long hibernation, only to fit into the same jeans they wore in middle school while the rest of just look at a doughnut and gain weight.  Many people really have to work to lose weight, it’s a life long struggle, it’s work forever.

It always makes me angry when I see comments on websites or on TV when people blatantly say “if you want to lose weight, just stop eating, tubby.”  It’s not so simple to just eat less, it’s life consuming to eat less, to find foods you can eat, to be a normal member of society and just say no to food.  It’s a struggle, and I wish more people understood that.

Having said that, here’s what I ate yesterday, which wasn’t much because Achilles doesn’t have any FOOD!


2 eggs, 1/2 avocado, whole grain bread

Grande soy latte
I have to give the boy credit, he braved a blizzard to bring back Starbucks


Turkey & whole grain bread

That’s about it.  I did hit his building gym in the evening, I went for a  15-minute run and 30-minutes on the elliptical.  Afterward I took a shower and played guitar hero which was surprisingly a good forearm workout.  You know how I’m always trying to build up my forearms 😉