pinup-redAre you at a happy weight?  I am, or at least I think I am.  According to Self Magazine’s Happy Weight Calculator I’m not happy.  According to them I should weigh 126.  Sure, I’d be happy at 126, I’d be pretty darn svelte.  But, I’m also pretty happy at 135 which is pretty much where my body remains constant these days.  I’m happy in a 6 or an 8 depending on the brand.  I’m happy that I still have breasts.  I’m happy that I’m curvy and muscular all at the same time.  I’m happy my ass fills out a  pair of jeans quite nicely if I do say so myself.  I’m happy in the body I have, and as long as that’s the case-I’m at a happy weight.

I appreciate what Self is trying to say, but I often think they miss the mark a little in their encouragement tactics.  When I started this blog, Elastic Waist was associated with Self and I was under orders not to say anything anti-Self.  Well, I’m no longer an employee of Conde Nast, so I can say what I want.  I generally like Self, I’ve been a subscriber for years.  Although I think that, more so than other fitness magazines, they encourage a positive outlook and relationship with your body, they’re still a diet/fitness magazine and still celebrate skinny.  Case in point, on the people they interviewed who had found a “happy weight” where all pretty tiny.  One woman was 5’9″ and 128 and she’d finally learned to accept her curves.  Umm, what curves!  That’s waif like if you ask me.

I’m not judging the skinny among us.  I know that self-consciousness comes in all shapes and sizes and a blessed metabolism doesn’t automatically equal body confidence.  Happy weights come at any number.  In fact, I don’t think being happy in your body has anything to do with the numbers on the scale, and I don’t think any amount of dieting will help you get there.  Body love is a journey, it takes time and a lot of forgiveness, and a lot of accepting.

So, what does it mean for me to be at a happy weight?  It means that I trust my body.  It means I workout, not to force it to be something it’s not, but to be the strongest version of myself I can be.  My happy weight means I wear clothes that fit me, regardless of the number on the tag-as long as I look  and feel good, who cares what number it says?  It means that I eat food.  Real food.  Food with fat in it and calories.  I refuse to feel guilty for eating.  My body will gain and lose, but as long as I treat it with love and respect it will always be there for me, because I allow it to be strong and healthy. I say pish-posh to 126, I’m perfectly happy where I am.

What does happy weight mean to you?